Today is October 6th. If Christmas is prominent in your thoughts today, I would urge you to put Christmas out of your thoughts for a while longer. A week is a start, and a month would be even better. Yes, I know I’m already blogging about Christmas; however, I’m doing so in an attempt to help people who are hyperfocused on this holiday to an unhealthy degree.
What is an unhealthy degree, you ask?
Well, if your thoughts about Christmas are causing you stress now, in early October, when it won’t even be Christmas for another 79 days, I think that’s an unhealthy degree of focus. If you are already making to-do lists, I think that’s an unhealthy degree of focus. I can say this because for many years I did make to-do lists in October. Because of my work schedule (and my inability to ask for help and/or sijmplify), I thought it was necessary to start Christmas preparations in October. I no longer do this, although between work, writing and my kids’ activity schedules, I am probably busier now than ever before.
If your thoughts about Christmas are dark and angry, I also think that’s an unhealthy degree of focus, even if you aren’t doing anything about Christmas yet. Let me make it clear: this blog is NOT anti-Christmas. The purpose of this blog is to get rid of the stress and negativity many people feel toward Christmas so that true joy and peace can be felt. The things causing the stress need to change, but we won’t throw the baby out with the bathwater. I’ve always enjoyed Christmas, and I like it even better now that I’ve tamed it in a way that works for me and my family.
If you just can’t put Christmas out of your mind, this would be a good time to decide what changes you want to make this year. What things have worked well for you? What did you enjoy most last year? What things do you want to try this year to simplify the holiday or make it more a more meaningful time?
Making decisions before you start your Christmas preparations (which I still think should be in about a month or even a little more) will help you celebrate purposefully and not miss any important aspects of the season, while giving you the best chance of being objective about what you spend, what events you attend, and other aspects of the holiday that may be causing you stress.
Before jumping headfirst into what I used to call “Christmas craziness,” take some time, be honest with yourself, and try to figure out where Christmas has gone wrong in the past. I guarantee you that making decisions about Christmas before beginning preparations for it will give you more peace and joy than almost anything else you could do this year.
Feel free to post in the comments section any questions or comments you may have about the blog or about taming Christmas. I am working hard to finish up the editing and formatting of the e-book this week, so check back for updates!
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